Do you miss going on dates and having fun with your hubby? We've got some sneaky ways to date him all over again!
1. Keep the date simple. Both of us are so sleep deprived that we barely stay awake during a movie unless there’s lots of action and loud explosions. Instead, we grab coffee and breakfast together in the morning before he heads into work. Or instead of my husband taking the bus to the train station, I drive him. Then we stop for coffee. (See a theme here?)
2. Think quality over quantity. While a weekly date isn’t possible with our work schedules, we aim for a mini-date once a month. We also have a monthly in-home movie night where we watch bad disaster movies. If we talk during it, we won’t miss anything crucial or feel guilty. Usually we just make fun of the bad acting and lack of continuity.
3. Redefine “date.” Instead of dinner at a fancy restaurant while the sitter entertains your kids at home, incorporate mini-dates into everyday activities. My husband and I are huge coffee drinkers so hanging out at the coffee shop becomes our couple time. Every morning, I take a brisk 30-minute walk at my park. I invited my husband to come along with me on his day off. Not only did we have an uninterrupted adult conversation, we also got some exercise! Yes, going to Target together without kids counts as a date.
4. Put away the smartphones. This is the hardest for me. As someone who works in social media, I feel compelled to check my phone every 30 seconds. (I might or might not be exaggerating.) Since these are mini-dates, I turn off my ringer for the 30 minutes or so during our couple time. Don’t cheat and put it on vibrate (that’s a different post!). Or leave the phone in your car or put it at the bottom of your purse. It’s only 30 minutes. We can do it. Breathe. Talk to your partner instead.
5. Don’t talk about the kids. Ok, I take back what I said about #4. It’s challenging not to talk about the kids. After all, we’re parents. I’m constantly thinking about my kids’ appointments, school assignments, even fun things they said. No matter what, the conversation is going to steer toward our kids. We can’t help it. This takes practice too. I usually talk about the book I’m reading or we analyze the latest episode of Bones or The Big Bang Theory.
It's the little things that count. Have fun and always make time for each other.